I’ve been wondering and I’ve been talking to someone about worrying what people say to us and I was just thinking about my relationships and of the masculine and feminine elements that make them. That which your inner being has equal amount of, whether you are male or female in your physical body the non-physical counterpart of you is equal in all of that.
What to do when you feel like a straight male or female and when you feel sort of more of a feminine energy and want to express it in your relationship but you sometimes feel a little bit discouraged from doing that?
It’s a common thing, the more in alignment you are with who you really are the more likely you are to express characteristics on either side of the feminine or masculine equation. It’s humans that want to draw those lines in more specific ways and not allow the whole of who you are to express. In the early days that used to come up quite often.
If you’re going to be Abraham why wouldn’t you come forth in the body of a male as it would be less confusing to people?
The best story was the man that said I’m having a very difficult time explaining about going to this place where Jerry, Esther’s husband talks about Abraham and Abraham is standing there in his wife and we thought well it’s a pretty good plan because it’s feminine and masculine in the name and it gets us close to a balance as can happen in just one person.
Hardly anyone will ever understand that you hardly understand anyone, and you’re all spending most of your time trying to get people to understand you.
The inner balance of masculine and feminine traits
People uncomfortable with their balance or because they’re worried about other people and their discomfort with something that you can’t explain to them, maybe that means they’re afraid of being rejected or just not being understood.
You got to get over that because hardly anybody’s ever gonna understand you hardly anybody understands anybody and you all spend most of your time trying to get them to understand which is how you squander your life force. Esther says this too, she’ll say I realized I’m working pretty hard at getting them to get me I want them to understand my reasons and my motives and what I really mean and it’s so tiring because they’re in all kinds of different places.
Maybe they’re going to understand you and maybe they’re not. Maybe they’re never gonna get you and maybe they will get you tomorrow. It’s too much for you to think about, don’t worry about anybody’s response to you. The only thing you need to do is to overcome the need of approval from others.
Worry about what others think
When worried about what others think and whether they get you, whether they understand and whether they approve what worrying about that accomplishes?
It’s not a good thing, it causes you to care about harmonizing with them rather than carry about harmonizing with your source, so it’s like you lose your attention and awareness of your own guidance system as you try to get it where it isn’t. In playful terms we say that’s looking for love in all the wrong places.
It’s a common thing, the more you are in alignment with who you really are the more likely you are on either side of the feminine or masculine equation to express characteristics.
Because where it really is, where it consistently is, oh it is another example of lots of people adore you and lots of people love you, and oh it feels so good to be in your human body and to hold someone as your object of attention and love. It feels good to them or it feels so good when they hold you as their object of attention and they love you, that feels good. We know why you want that from each other, but those are delicious manifestations.
That’s more of that physical stuff that we don’t want you to get dependent on or hooked on because it’s elusive and it’s passing through and it’s old news. It’s people who want to draw those lines in more specific ways and don’t allow you to express the whole thing that are old news.
What you can always count on is the love and appreciation and focus and attention and awareness that your inner being has with you. Whether you are male or female in your physical body, the non-physical counterpart of you is balanced and measured.
Catering to others and how it affects your inner balance
Haven’t you noticed that sometimes in the quest for somebody’s attention and approval you get really good at catering to them, you stand on your head in lots of different ways and they keep evolving and wanting different things from you.
So you never quite get them satisfied because they’re looking to you for something that isn’t yours to give them, and so you really do everybody a favor by being a holdout. Not being so agreeable because if you are so easy to give them what they want then they never have to figure out how to align with where it really is. Then not only do you disappoint them but everywhere they go they’re disappointed
So you can never really satisfy them because they are looking for something you can’t give them.They get their feelings hurt when nobody’s trying to hurt their feelings and still you’re not satisfied. People are uncomfortable with their balance or worried about other people and their discomfort with something you can’t explain to them, maybe that means they’re scared of being rejected or simply not being understood. We don’t want you to become dependent or hooked on physical stuff because it’s elusive and it’s going through and it’s old news.
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