Infinite Intelligence Episode #20 – How to Connect With Your Inner Being
Unconditional love is, is well worn word, they are well worn words, but what they really mean is sometimes your environment can be pleasing to an extent that you feel satisfied within it and then, if the environment changes for some reason and then you don’t feel satisfaction, it feels like, if you could just bring those conditions back then, and you would feel better and people work really hard to try to keep the conditions just right so that they can have good feeling response to those conditions.
But it is the reason that your world is a bit and upheaval from the beginning of time and will always be for those who approach it that way, because you don’t have the power or the right or the ability to control the conditions of others, you don’t get to choose what they want or what they don’t want. And so it’s like saying when I look at that really good. So everyone needs to promote that. Alright, see that it makes me happy everyone do it and sometimes people say no.
I don’t want to promote. That is that, but it makes me happy and they say who cares and then you get all feeling unimportant and unappreciated. So I see this and I like it, so I feel better now I see that I don’t like it might feel worse.
So that needs to be more like that’s like and feel better, and you just spend so much time trying to control the uncontrollable, and so there is such freedom and finally, accepting the you can’t control the conditions, but you can control what you focus upon and you can control how you feel and sometimes a complete reboot is a value and don’t think that we’re talking about the reboot of starting
vr on your own. We don’t mean that at all we’re talking about this complete reboot that meditation we’ll give you talk about getting in the receptive mode and letting a vibration that has no resistance in it gained momentum, in other words, all there’s such power and satisfaction in that. So, let’s just take the subject of the specifics of what happened, and so what was it if you had to describe with a word what your husband was proclaiming for himself? What would it be?
I want freedom and I don’t want to be controlled by you. Well if he wants freedom and he don’t want to be controlled by you and he goes away from you and he justifies the freedom he wants by pushing against the control that you had he’s not ever gonna find freedom he’ll be in a different place, but he won’t find freedom different faces, different places, but you take your bondage ever where you go, because you take your vibration everywhere, you go and we’re not giving this to you.
For example, just a smidgen of satisfaction, just a smidgen. We don’t want wanted to make you happy that he’ll still be miserable. That’s not the point of this, and we don’t want just like any delight in the fact that he’s already discovered the error of his ways. That’s not what this conversation is about it, but what it is about is about figuring out what unconditional love really is figuring out.
What getting ready to be ready is because you know the two of you as you were, living your life together, you were having contrast, everyone does it’s natural and putting things into your board dex both of you were, and so what do you think is beneath his decision to leave his desire for freedom, so that’s about as basic as it gets in the vortex, and you just heard us say that you were all born with this trial of intentions of freedom and growth and joy, and so freedom isn’t the basis of your desire to.
But you know what you’re all wanting freedom from it’s, not a controlling spouse, it’s freedom from the bondage of discord, that is always self inflicted, and so every negative emotion and it’s gonna be a little hard for you hear this right now, because this is pretty new, but every negative emotion that you feel is always an indication of some resistance between you and you and what it means is.
Not only has your husband wanted powerfully freedom you have to and have both been experiencing a considerable amount of bondage. Almost everyone does in bill, leaving the? U have to please each other. The whole reason for our conversations through all of these years, with all of you. If this is the most significant thing that we know that we want you to remember and come to know the satisfaction that you are looking for, no matter what the request or desire is, that is active with in you.
What you’re looking for is the absence of resistance between you and that larger part of you who is attracting on your behalf. We said that to you at the beginning, you might not have really heard it that you were source energy before you came in that source energy part of you still exist and still is attract dean on your behalf with the help of law of attraction, freedom is what that part of you is always asking for, and so, when you and there’s an extension of that focus on something, and you consider yourself or proclaim yourself, not free, there’s a discord between what your inner being knows about you and what law of attraction is responding to and what you’re doing here and now and that discord results in a tug of war, which is what you proclaim as your lack of freedom.
But it’s not the lack of freedom that has you all. Wadded up is vibrational variants. So so, when someone who you’ve been cooperating with makes a choice, that of course affects you. It feels like there needs to be a reversal of that decision for a while Esther thought jerry should come back into his body and get back into the bed and lived there with her like he had been doing. For thirty two years she just thought it was unreasonable of him to do something other than that who are you to get to live your life?
The way you are choosing you are a condition that was pleasing to me and you should return turn to that pleasing place. But then would Esther began to discover, is and was easier for her because she really logically knew he wasn’t coming back that way, so she had to accept that condition as something that was going to continue to remain, and so she reached this place and fairly soon, where she discovered that she didn’t have a choice of the conditions reverting to what they were before. So she had to give that up, but she did have a choice about whether she was gonna feel good in this moment or bad, which meant she did have a choice about what she thought about.
And so what happens when something happens to that sort of up in jew in a very powerful? Why is that you lose that connection that feels so good, but it causes you to launch rockets of desire to return to that. And so then you discover that the happiness that you were giving the credit to for a relationship or for some condition or circumstance-
that’s not where it was ever coming from. It was the alignment with your inner being. That was always a reason for your happiness. Do you understand how much freedom that gives you when, finally, once and for all, you’re, not giving anybody on the planet, credit or blame for the way? You feel and you’re able to understand that the singularly your relationship with your own guidance system and isn’t it ironic in a way because you do it to each other, whether you are the one who was standing on your head to please someone so they’ll feel better or whether you’re the one who’s demanding somebody stand on their head to.
Please you in any case, isn’t it a little ironic that in all of that well being and and all of that that service and all of that trying to be the nicest person you could ever be to somebody else that you actually teaching them not to understand their own guidance system? Please me never mind how you feel about it. Never mind your own guidance system, never mind your own satisfaction as long as you’re pleasing me than you should be pleased that I’m pleased that’s kind of the way you teach to each other.
As long as I’m happy, then you’re good and you say don’t be selfish and what you mean is do what I need you to do serve my selfishness, not your own, but you see he’s got to serve your own selfishness, which means you’ve got to harmonize with your own inner being and so in his quest for freedom, you’re going to discover yours for the first time ever.
I think I’m starting to from listening to so much. Let’s walk through this just a little bit, because this can be helpful. It would be good for everyone to hear this so just start in a sort of raw feeling place and here’s just a few words to describe the injustice that was done to you or the feeling of injustice that was done to you just speak it briefly. Now we know we’ve sort of taken you from that, so it might be difficult for you to reactivate it, but not so hard you’re right.
There already injustice, the injustice just that he made that decision, although he’s come away from it and he’s coming back closer now, starting to work his way back towards me, but just see well, don’t mess up our story by hi, be the solution so fast we felt betrayed, betrayed, betrayed and abandoned, betrayed and abandoned. So when you feel betrayed, let’s start with the abandoned when you feel abandoned what, from the other end of that, if I’m abandoned abandoned feels like lonely, it feels like fried worthless. It feels like misunderstood.
It feels like not research affected voice. There’s a lot wadded up in this, isn’t there. So what’s on the other end of that, what desire does the feeling of abandonment? What’s, on the other end of that stick to seal aligned with sores that you see? What’s really interesting is because the way you were going with that abandonment feels like betrayal, if not being love but really abandonment on the other end of that is wellbeing.
Are you following a little bit what we’re getting at if you can get right to the raw negative feeling and you can isolate the wanted feeling the raw wanted feeling on the other end of it, and you don’t get it all cluttered by acknowledging? Well, I’ve been abandoned. Now I feel worthless, and now I feel betrayed because now you’re just over here in this mess, and you can’t get any clarity but when you think about being abandoned and what you really want is the security of knowing where you belong and isn’t that what alignment with your source, energy always gives you and in a way we love you so much but hear this.
Doesn’t every relationship somewhat in the way you think a healthy relationship should play out. Don’t almost all of them led you to that abandonment, because don’t all of them leads you away from the only source of true well being.
Ah, almost every relationship you’re practicing carry more about what he thinks about how you feel about who you really are most people care more about what somebody in their life thinks about them or does toward them than you do about your own connection to source energy and all of the things that you came here to live in a comp we should be, and all of the things you’ve sifted and sorted and added to it.
Since this war, Texas, who you are this vortex, is home for you and nothing else, we’ll do, and there aren’t enough people in the world are any one person who could love you enough to compensate for that. That’s conditional love that we’ll never get to where you want to be. If you’re looking for love in all the wrong places, like almost everyone is, isn’t this a nice conversation to have?
If you really want to do this for yourself anything, that’s bothering you identify this bothers me because I’ve got this, and what I really want is this and take time to make sure that what you’re identifying is what you really want and then acknowledge. Through my connection with my inner being, I do have that, and so I was not rendered in stable by this. I was given the pot essential for the greatest stability I’ve ever had. I was not rendered not valuable through this. I was given the opportunity to find my true value that I’ve ever found say and once you find that and once that’s what you are radiating not defensively in a reflex way reacting and responding to whatever he did or didn’t do, but now you’ve found your center and that’s what your emanating?
That’s, who you are you’re more stable than you’ve ever been, there’s nothing that will run someone off faster than your insecurity and that’s what happens in so many relationships. One feels really insecure, which makes the other one feel bondage. That’s just sort of the way things are being banged out out here in this manifested edge, somebody that is wanting freedom.
You both really want freedom, it’s not one or the other of you, but in the physical form. So often, you think that what you’re looking for is stability, that’s provided for another, rather than the stability that provided when you’re in alignment with all the resources from which you have come. Every insecurity, every negative emotion, even though it seems like it was exacerbated by that person, was really you just pinching off your true resources of who you are, and sometimes these lovely people help you to realize life exactly how you’re pinching yourself off from what you want.
So you might say to your partner going coming going coming, you might say about him, maybe not to him yet, but about him. Your quest for freedom and your willingness to find your own satisfaction unconditionally, triggered in me an alignment to something that I’d forgotten. I also have to have, and in the process of feeling abandoned. I’ve come home to my true stability and now I’ll be nicer to live with.
If you want to come back everything, that’s bothering you is about that. If they all those people that have in such talented ways learned how to get your goat have just been giving you an opportunity to come into vibrational alignment with your true resources to say, and so, while Esther missed jerry so much and still does every now and again, she knows that his departure cause to reorient Asia.